What is the change you want in your relationships? Take ownership for your part in the nightmare. Empower yourself to be the change you want (in your relationships, in the world). Less bickering? Stop your bickering.
More sex? Make yourself approachable and slink into the sexy neighborhood in your mind. Turn towards your beloved more often than you turn away.
Less negativity? Find what’s working in your life and set up camp there. Perhaps only daring into the dark woods of dangerous debate when you are finding the common purpose; the pure intention driving you.
This brings me to the point. Find purpose. Live with intention.
Be the change you want to see in your relationships
This year for Halloween I dressed up as a miracle. An angel dress, sparkly make-up, and an inner glow lit me up on the dark night of disguises. Too tuckered to be creative, I relaxed into the easy costume selection. Be myself. A sober woman of integrity. It is a true miracle that I am 30 years practicing yoga, 24 years sober, and 16 years married. I am grateful beyond measure. It’s miraculous when I look at where I’ve been and where I am now.
As I’m typing this I’m barking at my son for not putting the dishes away sooner. I paused and re-read the top line, apologized for my bickering, and repaired the rupture quickly. Another miracle. I don’t linger in resentments toward self or others.
Want to know a quick trick to get clear what you’re really taking a stand for in your life?
What costume you put on in the morning?
In an interview this week, I heard the brilliant prompt: if you woke up tomorrow and everything you’ve ever done or said or written were somehow wiped clean, what would you write down as your three truths?
Here’s what I came up with immediately:
- Heal addictions that rob your soul of the beauty of the present moment.
- Heal relationships with Self, Other, Spirit — this is the S.O.S. of our times.
- Contemplate grace daily, for me, this is spending time outdoors in yoga and meditation.