Aloha Dear One,
sometimes the breathing room needed for grief stretches out and spills over and shoves under life
Time takes time
so here’s this blog entry from 2024 on JOYS/SORROWS which sat in a draft file for over a year
- JOY: My visit from my Beloved Soul Sister Mary last week was just what I needed. This was her first visit here and we kept it simple and serene. Clouds, trees, beaches, sunsets, and even a few magical seahorses on her first snorkel swim with us suffused us with joy and a profound sense of heartsease (my new favorite word)! Who isn’t a fan of savoring the good while it is good? Lingering longer in the gentle breeze of connection.
- SORROW: I miss Mary already (and I’m grateful she finally came to Hawai’i). I miss my older son who is studying in Africa (and I feel grateful we can still connect while he is on the other side of the planet). I miss my brothers in Florida (and have my fingers crossed–not my breath held–that someday they will visit).
For me, I find great strength in turning toward that which haunts me. My tender heart of sadness opens, grief washes over and through me, and compassion leaves me fresh and full of grace.
I have more blessings in my life than I can say grace over, and there are big personal and global challenges to face. It’s both/and. Being aware of how we are resourced and resilient allows us to makes a huge difference in cultivating regenerative relationships.
Regenerative relationships: energetic exchanges of excellence
Regenerative relationships are my jam. I give. I receive. We mutually uplift in our knowing of our inter-dependence. I’ve really tuned-in to the benefit of helping others WHILE also receiving help myself. There is an energetic exchange of excellence. I no longer wallow in self-pity as a victim, nor do I over-extend and ignore my own personal needs as a martyr.
The key to extraordinary living is finding the sweet spot in the middle of enlightened self-interest and maximum service for others. Owning our shadows and delighting in what resides there. Daring, yes!
Meet me here.
I’ve been focused on couples work for years and now I’m opening my practice back up to individuals as well. It’s all about sanity, sobriety and serenity–no matter what. Let me know what support looks like!
Warmly,
Amy
p.s. here’s a glimpse of the marvels of 3:33 am in Hawai’i nei
