Do you have a bucket list? Are there important things in your life that beg for your time and energy? Have you listened to your soul?
Perhaps you long to give up addictive behaviors, release stress, take a leap of faith, witness your soul waking up, and take a risky outrageous leap in the direction of your dreams.
Wait, that’s what I did. I quit drinking alcohol 25 years ago, I do yoga daily to release stress, I’ve taken a huge leap of faith (so big that life feels like a giant free fall), and took a huge leap across the ocean to call Hawai’i home.
I’m still finding deeper reservoirs of resiliency. There is more to transform. Can you relate? Whew. Moonshot after moonshot, and I’m not done yet.
Neither are you.
Share with me what moonshots you’ve witnessed in your life thus far. What awaits you? What sparks joy?
Tune in now to the one hour replay from Friday’s live panel with leading experts on extraordinary living. Let’s go straight for the love, declare our moonshot, and feel the magic unfurl.
Are you willing to view pressure as the energy of change vs. something to wrestle with? Listen to Aimee explore this.
Are you prepared to go straight for the love? Listen to Linda dive into her story of resiliency in her relationship.
Are you ready for the level beyond happiness? Try santosha (contentment). Listen to Arielle describe it.
Linda Bloom’s Gift: 3 free e-books: An End to Arguing, The Ten Biggest Things We’ve Learned Since We Got Married and Your Guide to Great Sex.Click Here
Arielle Ford’sGift:The Soulmate Relationship Quiz Click Here
Aimee Bernstein’s Gift: contact Aimee to participate in a drawing for a free one hour coaching session. Click Here
Warmly,
~ Amy Elizabeth
You matter. Your relationships matter.
Amy Elizabeth Gordon MA
Relationship Architect
Founder & Visionary Queen | Gig Called Life Coaching, LLC
p.s. What is your heart’s desire? What is longing and begging for your attention? I’d love to hear. Hit reply now and tell me about it.
Let’s start with the end in mind. We are in the midst of a cultural revolution. My purpose-driven passion as a social pioneer is to transform the world, one relationship at a time. Let’s embrace the mind-blowing capacity of love to heal heart dis-ease and end addiction, as we contemplate a new reality. Relational Health starts with Self and ends with an extraordinary life.
Join me in this month of Moonshot Magic. We will have special panel style interviews designed to stimulate your appetite for healthy relationships.
Moonshot Magic: change in here, ignite out there
Panel Interview: Relational Health with Yourself: explore the realms of resiliency, compassion and service in the transformational journey of a lifetime.
Time: First interview Friday 11/8 at 10am Pacific, 11am Mountain, noon central, 1pm Eastern, 7pm Vienna
Tune in Live for real time Q&A and special bonus.
Guests, Arielle Ford, Aimee Bernstein, Linda Bloom
This November 26th I am intentionally launching my book, Moonshot. If you’ve read it, I ask for your review and promotion. If you haven’t, what are you waiting for?
Why I wrote my memoir: Moonshot
I wrote Moonshot, my transformational memoir, as an invitation to approach the present moment with greater awareness, invite a moment of acceptance, and then act accordingly, from a place of tender, powerful generosity rooted in resilience.
This transformational memoir is for you if you have severed contact with your inner guidance system, felt blamed and shamed, and then criticized others and compromised your morals.
Perhaps you suffer, as I once did, from the epidemic in our dominant culture of distraction and busyness. You’re addicted to things that rob your soul of the beauty of the present moment. You avoid the direct experience of the moment by chronic “doing” versus “being.”
And you rise, like a mighty wave.
Now, are you willing to trust yourself to no longer abandon yourself? Are you ready to own your super-sensitive superpowers? Join me and declare your Moonshot, that something extraordinary that wouldn’t otherwise happen.
I remember twenty years ago, sitting on the floor of a community center, heart-storming and dreaming of the positive future, of 2000 and the broader dream of 2020.
It was exhilarating to imagine all the possibilities.
Opening new vistas, igniting conscious action, expanding the limits…together exchanging our energies in community
The only thing missing at that time was how to hold each other tenderly and fiercely accountable. And this, Dear Reader, is vital to making dreams come true…to launching truly attainable Moonshots.
We can all dream big. We can all declare something extraordinary that wouldn’t otherwise happen. The real question is how to bring it to fruition; everybody needs a buddy.
Feeling that exhilaration again as I look at the year ahead.
I’m inviting you, Dear Reader, to the new community of Moonshot Magic coming together soon. Stay tuned for details…
In the meantime, I’m giving you some inspiration.
Below you will see some of the influencers I’m letting in this week and what I’m feeding my mind.
Mindset Magician: Everything is Figureoutable, Marie Forleo
Inspiring Leader: Dare to Lead, Brene Brown
Spiritual Being: Living Beautifully, Pema Chodron
Abundance Angel: The Wealthy Spirit, Chellie Campbell
Creative Muse: How the Light Gets In, Pat Schneider
Integrated Self: Moonshot: aim high, dive deep, live an extraordinary life, Amy Elizabeth Gordon
I am a mindset magician, inspiring leader, spiritual being, abundance angel, creative muse, and integrated self. So are you. Thank you for allowing me to influence your mindset toward greater relational health.
Have a magical weekend.
Warmly,
~ Amy Elizabeth
p.s. 2020 is coming. I’m clearly seeing an extraordinary year on the horizon.
Everett, my 15 year-old, made delicious pumpkin bread from scratch this weekend. Two pans of yumminess. Monday I overindulged and I felt bloated and logy, dull and heavy; sluggish. Not vital as I prefer.
How we relate to food, exercise, sleep, alcohol and drugs is all within the scope of relational health. My aim to be optimally healthy. Daily, I recommit. I begin again, but not from scratch.
Relational health requires daily upkeep.
Top 5 healthy behaviors
Did you know that only 6% of Americans consistently engage in the top 5 healthy behaviors? These behaviors are no smoking, moderate to no drinking, regular activity/exercise, healthy body weight and adequate sleep.
If you’re feeling healthy, I’m guessing you are following these healthy behaviors consistently.
I’m in the 6% and I’m grateful beyond measure. My heart is healthy and this is foundational for relational health.
My boys are in this category as well, as well as within a smaller percentage (of privilege, gotta name it for what it is) who have 4 adults living in the household with them who love them unconditionally and who all hold degrees in higher education (two have masters and 2 hold doctorates). There is no active abuse or alcoholism, no TV blaring, no pantry full of processed foods, and no toxic chemical overload. What exists in our home:
recovery from alcoholism (me) and moderate consumption by others (Marc and his parents).
mindful consumption of media (no devices at table during meal-times) and designated media-free days.
healthy, fresh food from the farmers market in the fridge (and some organic chips, crackers and dark chocolate in the pantry).
vinegar mixed with essential oils and water to clean surfaces (no harsh cleansers).
ants and bugs because we don’t use an exterminator (and we clean dishes after each meal and have Sunday chore day to do deeper clean).
Here’s the thing. I didn’t necessarily grow up in this environment; I created it. Declared my Moonshot (that something extraordinary that wouldn’t otherwise happen) for optimal relational health, including a loving, healthy, uplifted home environment.
My father died of heart dis-ease. Long before the age of 69 (which is when he actually left this physical plane), he left many unmet desires and dreams behind him. Consumed by stress and starved for passion.
Relationship of stress & passion
Stress is when we live in life that we are not in alignment with, we wrestle with on a daily basis, and we feel powerless over it all and give up in defeat. (and perhaps turn to sweets)
Passion is when we are inspired by our own dreams and desires and find our purpose on this planet. (and perhaps turn to sweets to celebrate)
The story I tell myself is that he drowned in his own suffering, the ache of loneliness too much for him to handle, the dampened desires insufficient to fuel his life. I noticed he ate sweets to find sweetness (though he was diabetic) and took heart medicines to cope with heart dis-ease (though he suffered heart-ache in many of his relationships).
Granted, Monday I ate 3 times the amount of homemade pumpkin bread than I “needed.” I still have my slips. I still feel the urge to indulge in sugar cravings. I’m human.
I don’t do it daily. I don’t feel good afterward. And I don’t beat myself up for it. I have the awareness, I have the acceptance, and I take action to do it less frequently.
Heal heart hurt
My passion is to heal heart hurt by cultivating holistic heart health and weaving the lei of aloha around the world. Finding the bigger love, the higher power, the deeper presence that holds me tenderly and sustains me to keep on keeping on when life gets lifey and I have moments of stress. I recommit to my passionate purpose, through resilience, compassion and service.
For the record, my father was also a poet, a lover of birds and sunrise, and the provider for my early childhood. I’m grateful beyond measure for his presence in my life, and I’d be lying to you if I told you his diseased life didn’t hurt my heart. And I’m resilient, I’m compassionate, and I desire to be of service.
And my heart is happy, strong, and bigger than the ocean.
The power of love is notably felt in the romantic phase. Feeling powerful, free of pain, invincible and higher than high is an amazing life experience. Yet this experience eventually fizzles out; it’s not sustainable.
We can chase it; we can’t contain it.
Romantic love, and the stories we tell ourselves about it, pull us into the highest highs and push us into the deep funks.
Love is a powerful force indeed
In the early stages of our romance, we felt the chemical swirl of feel-good hormones and daring behaviors. The hot and steamy seduction connected us deeply. The pursuit of these passions dominated our days.
Then came the mental wrestling match: Is this really happening? Is this okay? Is this the right time? What about _____ (fill in the blank)? All of this mental meandering resulted in the back and forth, together/apart dance of our relationship.
You know what I’m talking about?
Then came the subsequent surrender. We fell, hard, in love. Hooked on the drug of love. Biological imperatives called the shots; we were hooked.
From here all things are possible
And it was complicated. I met Marc in 1997. There was a lot going on in graduate school as these flames of passion licked our beings. Rarely is falling in love a clean situation. Other people are often involved. Marc was married at the time. I was in the early stages of sobriety and wanted to treat people honorably; myself included.
Difficult decisions determined the future. We were tempted and waited. We slipped and slided. We merged and collided. We broke it off and waited. Divorce proceedings simple. I was blamed as the “other woman.”
During the lulls, the resultant longing and disappointment sometimes made me hurt so much I would wish I’d never even engaged.
My body’s wisdom knew this man could heal me in ways I couldn’t on my own. My body’s wisdom knew we would create amazing things together.
Surrendering to the wisdom of my body, I committed to the relationship. I quit stirring the worry pot and I let the mental meanderings settle, my soul softening to the moment.
Romance reminds me of my meditation practice
In romance, I’m falling in love with my wholeness. I see my wholeness when I look in my beloved’s eyes. I think it’s outside of me. It’s not.
In meditation I am searching for my wholeness. I think it’s outside of me. I realize it’s not.
In romance I feel blissed out; I can experience this in meditation also.
My mind, left unchecked, bounces back and forth between things I want more of and things I want less of. I praise people or I blame them (including myself). It is a dizzying game of push and pull. This game creates suffering.
This doesn’t get me where I want to go. When I’m caught up in praise and blame, I’m basically manufacturing my own misery.
Romance can do this, too, where we often-times stay stuck in blaming the other person. We get caught up in the power struggle and end up blaming our drug dealer (our lover). The very person who generated the feel-good chemicals in the brain, now becomes target for our disappointment because the feel-good chemicals of romance, to meet and mate and procreate, are not meant to last forever. We need to evolve to something more sustaining.
When my mind is freed of the burden of attraction and revulsion, I’m free to settle into the moment. Fresh moment. New awareness. Joy and freedom. This is the joyful journey I’ve discovered in my primary love relationship. I’ve moved beyond push and pull (for the most part) and settled into sustainable sweet connection. When we drift, we recalibrate back to this again and again. I believe in the power of love.
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
