It’s that time of year to reflect on the memories and highlights and, most importantly, to share them with those you love. Then contemplate what you would like to experience in the year ahead. Research shows, you write it down, it is more likely to happen. Think of it as fertilizer for the space between; the relational field that yields abundant crops of all that your heart desires.
We complain about the quality of our lives without taking stock of what goes in and out of our lives. The years pass by without savoring the sweet moments and metabolizing the grief. We feel powerless.
Take inventory of your primary relationship. Carve out the time to jot down your thoughts and share with your beloved in an intentional dialogue. You take inventory of your fridge to keep it clean and fresh in order to sustain your body. Now it is important to inventory that which feeds your soul: your primary relationships.
Personal responsibility for what matters most in your life and created the extraordinary life you want. The ultimate result: you love your love life. From this place, you can be a force for good in the world because you are resourced and responsible.
Annual Review Time:
How did I add to your life in 2020?
How would you like me to add to your life in 2021?
What helped you to feel loved and safe in 2020?
What would help you to feel loved and safe in 2021?
What precious memories do you have from 2020?
What precious memories would you like to create in 2021?
How did you see me grow in 2020?
In what ways would you like me to grow in 2021?
What did you learn from me in 2020?
What would you like us to learn in 2021?
A New Year Dialogue
1. What I contributed to our relationship this year is…..
2. What I appreciate in your contribution to our relationship this year is….
3. Concerning my part in our relationship, what I would be glad to leave behind, and say goodbye to, towards our continued work is……
4. A Growth Gift that I’m giving myself….
5. A Growth Gift that I’m giving you is…….
Do this with your partner and also with your family. Thereby, you invest in what mattes most.
Let me know if I can coach you through this process.
Before the end of the year, do this because you matter and your relationships matter.