focus in your own hula hoop

extraordinary definition of focus: laser love on the center of interest

If you are anything like me, you reach a familiar pain point when you allow the wave of lack of acceptance to wash over you. When we spend so much energy wanting others to be different than they are and wanting circumstances to be different than they are; we end up generating our own suffering.

When you focus in your own hula hoop, you have the opportunity to shine laser love on the center of interest–your own precious mind and tender heart. You can change the channel on your discursive thoughts.

Tell yourself, I’m exactly where I need to be. I have complete and utter love and acceptance of myself. And, I have a desire to upgrade my life completely. It is both/and.

This month let’s focus on keeping that laser love REAL.

Keep It Real: resourced, engaged, aware, loving.

When you connect with someone else, come from a place of being resourced. For example, when I’ve had ample sleep, activity, nutrition, exercise, I’m more SANE.

From this place of sanity, I feel resourced. I enter into connection with others with an abundance of sanity and energy to engage. Engagement stokes enthusiasm. Put down your phone when someone walks into the room, and feel the energy swirling in the space between.

Become aware of your influence and realize you matter.

You matter. Your relationships matter.

Keeping an intimate relationship is challenging, and many people face difficulties in doing so. In the current research, within the context of an evolutionary theoretical framework, the most important difficulty was “Fading away enthusiasm,” followed by “Long work hours” and “Lack of personal time and space.” 

How you show up in the space matters. How you respond to others matters. You matter. Your relationships matter. Stoke inner fire of enthusiasm. Eliminate long work hours (I’m going to sign off now and watch Ted Lasso with my beloved, Marc!). Commit your focus to being more loving. Set this intention as you go about your day. Set a timer on your phone.

My timer on my phone says, “Pause at the tiny voice.”

This is a gentle reminder from a couple of years ago when I began trusting my tender heart more fully. At that time, it was a tiny voice. It was God. Now, I can honestly say, that voice is more audible, more clear, more resonant, and more comforting than my previous inner mental chatter.

You can now change the channel away from discursive thoughts of woe is me or he shouldn’t have done that to a pure voice of my True Nature.

Thank you God.