It is essential to know your bigger why in life. Identify where you want to be in your relationship with your beloved. Focus on one action you can take to help get you there. Have accountability with a coach, therapist, or trusted friend. And by all means, know your why. This serves as fuel to keep you committed, keep you focused, and keep you willing.
Relationships take work. No doubt about it, they do. It is so easy to get overwhelmed with the whole thing and succumb to focusing on what is not working. Please don’t despair. Problem is we expect others to read our minds. We expect others to change. To make us happy. We loose sight of our why and we loose motivation to bring our best self forth.
You deserve to have the relationship of your dreams but you gotta know your dreams. What is your why? If it’s for the kids, dig deeper. If it’s for the convenience, scratch the surface to see what’s underneath. Bring mindfulness and loving awareness to your presence on this planet. We need you. You matter and your relationships matter.
A League of Extraordinary Couples
Here’s the thing, we need to know our whys and live them loud and proud. Presently I’m in the process of interviewing folks for my next online show, A League of Extraordinary Couples. And it is too sad to hear many responses such as, “I don’t know many people in extraordinary relationships. And if I do they don’t want to talk about it, much less be interviewed.” WHAT?
Self, Other, and Spirit
No wonder the world is falling apart at the seams. Wake up folks. The time is now to recognize that we live in a relational reality. The quality of the relationships we have with Self, Other, and Spirit are the glue that holds the fabric of our societies together. This is the S.O.S. of our times. Know the big why we want a good life. Know the big why regarding why we are committed to our Self, to Other, and to Spirit.
My big why
A dear friend asked me to go deeper in my posts, so here I go.
My big why—I’m committed to myself because I’m a loving and sober woman of integrity on a movement to grow compassion and heal the planet, one relationship at a time. I’m a loving and committed wife to my beloved husband Marc–My big why is because when I advocate for his wellbeing, part of me grows and heals and stretches into a more holistic way of being. I’m a loving and vibrant vessel for Spirit to shine forth–My big why is because when I create space for grace, my soul welcomes in even more of the Creative Spirit of the Universe and I’m of maximum service to God and my fellows. It creates a loving spiral of strength and sustainable energy.
My deeper why
My deeper why is because I’ve been on the other side of healthy relations with Self, Other, and Spirit. Surviving abuse, trauma and addiction, I’ve also mistreated others and felt the consequences of my actions. Questioning Spirit and feeling condemned. I’ve been to hell and I don’t want to go back. Therefore, I found my why.
That’s my deeper why. If you are interested in more of my personal story of transformation, you’re in luck. My first published book is on the way. My baby is coming, I’m in labor at this very moment. Exhilarating and a bit surreal, I must admit it is both. Stay tuned…
Call to action:
I’d be honored to know your big why? What gets you out of bed in the morning? What’s your purpose? I’d love to know. Please share below. I thank you, in advance, for your time and attention to your own bigger why.