the road to hell is paved with good intentions

Aloha Dear One, 

My intentions are pure, or so I think. But you know what the road to hell is paved with, right?

We may have the best ideas and hold the right intentions, but what is the conduct? What are the results? 

While the world judges us by our actions; we judge ourselves by our intentions. 

For example, when I take an honest look at some past behaviors, 

• My intention wasn’t to make love to a married man, it was to feel pleasure and release. But my action? Sleeping with a married man.
• My intention wasn’t to steal money from my job, it was to treat my friends to a good time at Disney and enjoy the expansive wave of generosity. But my action?  Stealing from my employer.
• My intention wasn’t to drive our family into bankruptcy, it was to expand my knowledge of myself and others. But my actions meant I continued to spend beyond my earnings, enrolling in more coaching and leadership programs and traveling from the middle of the Pacific Ocean weighted by major credit card balances.

It is important to note that I’ve made amends for my transgressions. And I’ve forgiven myself and refused to blame others. And I received support on this journey of transformation.

My intention is to be a good and trustworthy person, my mind craves peace, and my heart’s desire is to experience joy. Yet when actions don’t align with intentions, it is impossible to trust self or others.

There is no peace or joy when I put my head to the pillow full of guilt, regret, or shame. 

Luckily, there is an alternative to this type of (self-generated) suffering. 

The time is now to re-imagine our relationships with Self, Other, Spirit. Today, I act in greater alignment with my intentions.  Yet I’m far from perfect. But here are 3 simple steps that help me immensely. 

1. Pause. 
2. Breathe. 
3. Reset. 

Pause. Breathe. Reset. 

1. Pause and consider your intentions today. 
2. Breathe sweetly and exhale completely. 
3. Reset the story you tell yourself to align your actions and your intentions and live with greater integrity. 

Let me know how this is for you and what support looks like.

Big love & tenderness,

Amy