Aloha Dear Ones,
This past month has been an incredible opportunity for me to practice radical self-care even when I’m far from my paradise of Hawaii and the comfort of family and friends.
You see, there’s nothing quite like waiting for the last exhale of your mother.
Talk about anxiety-provoking. After bringing my mom home from the hospital with hospice care, there were times when I couldn’t sit still for more than 20 minutes.
I titrated my anxiety the best I could. I didn’t drink the bottles of wine. I didn’t binge on Netflix. I didn’t engage in the drama of old family stuff swirling around my ankles. Instead, I did laundry and ate a few bites of non-dairy ice cream and called it good. I honored my non-negotiable and took walks daily. And believe it or not, I slept. I wailed. I prayed. I created peace within my own tender heart as the only thing I felt I could do for my mom.
My point in sharing all this is that I didn’t abandon myself.
I trusted myself to take radically good care of myself while I waited for my mom to die. I leaned in to feel the feels and I backed off when it felt too much.
- I cut myself some slack.
- I released expectations.
- I relinquished the idea that I would do it “right.”
This resulted in greater liberation.
When I taste liberation it’s often due to my daily commitment to trust myself to no longer abandon ANY aspect of myself. Including the anxiety. Including the grief.
And so my awareness of myself translates to greater curiosity of you: how is your heart? How are doing in this gig called life?
- When have you abandoned aspects of your whole Self?
- How do you get to show up to your life in a more generous and responsible manner?
- Where can you be more free?
Where can you be more free?
Let’s connect and explore these questions, and more, in a few days.
(free) Distinctions of Extraordinary Living Masterclass Zoom Meeting
Time: Friday, November 19th, 2021
9 AM Hawaii/ 11 AM Seattle/ noon Denver/ 2 PM New York/ 8 PM Paris
Zoom ID 808-936-3733
Amy | Relationship Doula
Don’t forget: You matter. Your relationships matter.