The One Minute Breath

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The One Minute Breath

When you practice one breath a minute, then you become Pavan Guru—you become the light and knowledge of the prana, and then you know the Universe, the Universe knows you.
-Yogi Bhajan 7/26/96

The One Minute Breath is a great technique to keep your calm through our fast changing times. Try it.

Sit in a meditation posture. Inhale for 20 seconds, hold for 20 seconds, exhale for 20 seconds. 

Benefits

  • Optimized cooperation between the brain hemispheres
  • Dramatic calming of anxiety, fear and worry
  • Openness to feeling one’s presence and the presence of spirit
  • Intuition develops
  • The whole brain works, especially the old brain and the frontal hemispheres

One Minute Breath Tips:

To start, make yourself very comfortable. Have a shawl on that you can remove without exertion if you get warm. Be very still.

Once you are set, take 3 minutes to relax and deepen your breath (or try 3 minutes of Breath of Fire, or if you are really tense try 3 minutes of Sat Kriya).

Inhale slowly and steadily, filling your lower abdomen, your stomach area, going up to your lungs and then all the way up the chest.

Lock the breath once you fill your upper chest (after 20 seconds).

Hold (20 seconds).

Then exhale, slowly gently and steadily.

At the end of 20 seconds gently reverse to an inhale and begin again.

Having trouble working your way into it?

Don’t fight your breath. Be relaxed. Here are two approaches:

1. Give yourself permission to work up to it. Start inhaling for 10 seconds, holding for 10 seconds, exhaling for 10 seconds (or even 5 seconds if necessary). Take a day or two and then increase to 15, 15, 15, and then to 20, 20, 20.

2. Start with 20, 20, 20. If you find yourself struggling against your breath, complete the breath and then begin one minute of deep breathing. After a minute, start again, inhaling for 20 seconds, holding for 20 seconds, exhaling for 20 seconds

“Twenty seconds to inhale, twenty seconds to hold, twenty seconds to let it out. It takes one minute. And if you just practice eleven to thirty-one minutes, your blood itself will become a warrior against disease.

On average, you breathe twenty to twenty-five breaths per minute. In good health you breathe ten times a minute and a mentally balanced person breathes seven to nine breaths per minute. Fewer than that and you are a yogi.

If you sit down and breathe one breath per minute, in exactly thirty seconds you will find you are talking to yourself. In three minutes, you can get over any kind of mood. Why are you suffering? Do you want to live a long time? If you breathe an average of fifteen times a minute, and you live one hundred years, then if instead, you breathe one breath a minute, you can live fifteen hundred years because life is measured by the breath, not by years or by the calendar. When you are unconscious, your breath will be shallow and strong. But if you practice one breath a minute for eleven minutes a day, you can be in control of your mind.

If you want things to be done for you so you don’t have to do anything, then you must breathe from one to five or six breaths per minute. If you can practice that, then you can attract the Universe to you. It is no secret. It’s a simple thing. The longer and deeper your breath is, the more your psyche attracts everything to you—it’s a way to prosperity.

For thirty-one minutes do the one-minute breath meditation—it’s the story of a man who is grateful today; who is successful today; who has become compassionate without any lecture. He has realized himself. Why? It’s so simple. You live by breath, you die by breath. And if you meditate on your breath, the Pavan Guru, the knowledge of the pranic vidya of creation and creativity and all incarnations will dawn on you.

For some people it may take a short time, for some it may take a long time. But the path is the same. The procedure is the same. You will start winning yourself. You will start valuing your breath. You will start valuing your environments. You will start valuing your projections and one day you will be surprised—everyone will, in turn, value you.”
-Yogi Bhajan from Success and the Spirit

“A person who can breathe one breath a minute can multiply life fifteen times—no matter what your disease or state of
affairs is.”
-Yogi Bhajan 1/18/95


©The Teachings of Yogi Bhajan

3 steps to relational health

Do you know that the story I tell myself about my life carries just as much weight as the vision I have for my life?

Life can feel heavy and burdensome, almost smothering, or supportive and steady like gravity. 

I can choose the later, I choose aloha (love & compassion) over pilikia (trouble of any kind). 

Today I align my story and my vision. And I regularly take the steps of commitment, compassion, and communication to optimize wellness in all my relationships.

No more woe is me, though there are still hard times. 

No more I can’t do it, though at times I feel alone (and I can’t do this gig called life alone). 

No more blaming or shaming others, cause when i do it, it doesn’t get me where I want to be. 

This is incredibly liberating and terrifying all at the same time! Given the hard times I’ve been through (and as Brené Brown says, we all come from hard times) I could spin a story of woe or tale of empowerment.

In case you hadn’t noticed yet, I choose Empowerment. Transparency. Authenticity.

Breaking free from negativity has been (and continues to be) the transformational journey of a lifetime. For example…

Addictive behaviors robbed my soul of the beauty of the present moment, I’m now nearly 25 years sober, knowing my recovery is a gift. 

My husband was married to another woman (GASP, I know!) when we first met in graduate school 22 years ago. We’re now nearly 17 years happily married, knowing we have transformed many challenges into opportunities for deep connection.  

In the past, I was a crazy, anxious, uptight woman, suffering a nervous breakdown in my early 20s. Now nearly 30 years as a practicing meditator, yogini, and lover of earth, I know that tenderness, power, and generosity are the fruits of my labor. 

My point in sharing all of this with you is to connect the dots. 

Me to you. My past to my present. Ordinary to extraordinary.

That’s what’s possible with relationship coaching:

Moving from ordinary to extraordinary. From negativity to connection. 

Extraordinary relationships require commitment, compassion, & communication and my coaching program explores these 3 steps to extraordinary living. 

Good news, I’m prepared to bring decades of experience to guide you on this journey and to offer aloha, accountability, and inspiration. See details below.

Jump in to surrender to the success of the moment, gain inspiration, learn skills to communicate more clearly and cultivate a compassionate heart. 

P.S. It really is true that relationships matter most. Think about it. Nothing really works in your life if your relationship has a negative charge. Take a stand for what matters most today.   

With warm Aloha ~ Amy 

You Matter. Your Relationships Matter. 

Introducing: Core Connections Coaching Program

Extraordinary relationships require these 3 steps: commitment, compassion & communication:

For 9 months, we dive deep into the realms of commitment, compassion, and communication as you birth your Tender-Hearted Self, enjoy greater connection, and live an extraordinary life. 

  •  Name negative behavior patterns to tame them
  •  Learn conflict is growth trying to happen

Commitment:

  • Declarations of desires and ways of being: what vision, by when
  • Key distinctions of extraordinary lives: starting with Trust, Focus, Repair, Faith

Compassion:

  • Contemplative exercises of yoga & meditation to cultivate awareness, acceptance, and compassion
  • Creative exercises to spark joy and energy in your life

Clear Communication:

  • Look at your styles of verbal and non-verbal communication.
  • Refresh skills around assertive, non-violent, and intentional dialogue

This program is for you if you’re ready to take their relational health to the next level.

We all live in a relational world and these tools will up-level the quality of your life and leave you resourced to live an extraordinary life.

Have you ever considered that how you do one thing is how you do everything?

This program will benefit all your relationships. You’re going to get the best of me. 

Guaranteed.

Annual Relationship Review Time

annual review

Annual Relationship Review is a worthy investment of your time. It’s that time of year to reflect on the memories and highlights and, most importantly, to share them with those you love. Then contemplate what you would like to experience in the year ahead. Research shows, you write it down, it is more likely to happen. Think of it as fertilizer for the space between; the relational field that yields abundant crops of all that your heart desires.

Problem:

We complain about the quality of our lives without taking stock of what goes in and out of our lives. The years pass by without savoring the sweet moments and metabolizing the grief. We feel powerless.

Solution:

Take inventory of your primary relationship. Carve out the time to jot down your thoughts and share with your beloved in an intentional dialogue. You take inventory of your fridge to keep it clean and fresh in order to sustain your body. Now it is important to inventory that which feeds your soul: your primary relationships.

Results:

Successful relationships by your own chosen standard result from taking personal responsibility for what matters most in your life and creating the extraordinary life you want. The ultimate result: you love your love life.

Annual Review Time:

carve out time with your Beloved and ask

How did I add to your life in 2023?
How would you like me to add to your life in 2024?

What helped you to feel loved and safe in 2023?
What would help you to feel loved and safe in 2024?

What precious memories do you have from 2023?
What precious memories would you like to create in 2024?

How did you see me grow in 2023?
In what ways would you like me to grow in 2024?

What did you learn from me in 2023?
What would you like us to learn in 2024?

A New Year Dialogue

1. What I contributed to our relationship this year is…..
2. What I appreciate about your contribution to our relationship this year is….
3. Concerning my part in our relationship, what I would be glad to leave behind, and say goodbye to, towards our continued work is……
4. A Growth Gift that I’m giving myself….
5. A Growth Gift that I’m giving you is…….

Do this with your partner and also with your family. Thereby, you invest in what mattes most.

Let me know if I can coach you through this process.

Before the end of the year, do this because you matter and your relationships matter.

Know Your Bigger Why in Life

know your why

It is essential to know your bigger why in life. Identify where you want to be in your relationship with your beloved. Focus on one action you can take to help get you there. Have accountability with a coach, therapist, or trusted friend. And by all means, know your why. This serves as fuel to keep you committed, keep you focused, and keep you willing.

Relationships take work. No doubt about it, they do. It is so easy to get overwhelmed with the whole thing and succumb to focusing on what is not working. Please don’t despair. Problem is we expect others to read our minds. We expect others to change. To make us happy. We loose sight of our why and we loose motivation to bring our best self forth.

You deserve to have the relationship of your dreams but you gotta know your dreams. What is your why? If it’s for the kids, dig deeper. If it’s for the convenience, scratch the surface to see what’s underneath. Bring mindfulness and loving awareness to your presence on this planet. We need you. You matter and your relationships matter.

A League of Extraordinary Couples

Here’s the thing, we need to know our whys and live them loud and proud. Presently I’m in the process of interviewing folks for my next online show, A League of Extraordinary Couples. And it is too sad to hear many responses such as, “I don’t know many people in extraordinary relationships. And if I do they don’t want to talk about it, much less be interviewed.” WHAT?

Self, Other, and Spirit

No wonder the world is falling apart at the seams. Wake up folks. The time is now to recognize that we live in a relational reality. The quality of the relationships we have with Self, Other, and Spirit are the glue that holds the fabric of our societies together. This is the S.O.S. of our times. Know the big why we want a good life. Know the big why regarding why we are committed to our Self, to Other, and to Spirit.

My big why

A dear friend asked me to go deeper in my posts, so here I go.

My big why—I’m committed to myself because I’m a loving and sober woman of integrity on a movement to grow compassion and heal the planet, one relationship at a time. I’m a loving and committed wife to my beloved husband Marc–My big why is because when I advocate for his wellbeing, part of me grows and heals and stretches into a more holistic way of being. I’m a loving and vibrant vessel for Spirit to shine forth–My big why is because when I create space for grace, my soul welcomes in even more of the Creative Spirit of the Universe and I’m of maximum service to God and my fellows. It creates a loving spiral of strength and sustainable energy.

My deeper why

My deeper why is because I’ve been on the other side of healthy relations with Self, Other, and Spirit.  Surviving abuse, trauma and addiction, I’ve also mistreated others and felt the consequences of my actions. Questioning Spirit and feeling condemned. I’ve been to hell and I don’t want to go back. Therefore, I found my why.

That’s my deeper why. If you are interested in more of my personal story of transformation, you’re in luck. My first published book is on the way. My baby is coming, I’m in labor at this very moment. Exhilarating and a bit surreal, I must admit it is both. Stay tuned…

Call to action:

I’d be honored to know your big why? What gets you out of bed in the morning? What’s your purpose? I’d love to know. Please share below. I thank you, in advance, for your time and attention to your own bigger why.

Appreciation for “Please” vs. “Perhaps”

sunrise appreciation

Gratitude gets you where you want to go. Building a culture of appreciation matters.

Take a look at two similar expressions:

Please own your role as a silence breaker.

vs.

Perhaps you are a silence breaker?

or

Please consider my perspective on this matter.

vs.

Perhaps you could consider me here?

or

Please do what I ask you to do now or let me know when you will, thanks.

vs.

Perhaps you could do this for me?

Which resonates more fully with you?

Stop questioning and start soliciting.

Which is stronger?

Please experiment with communicating more assertively.

vs.

Perhaps you might want to try this?

Please, thank you. 

 

Gratitude Year Round

gratitude

Year round gratitude is a practice worthy of exploration. Here are twelve tip of encouragement to invite into your life, now.

Absence, Neutrality, Support

1. Pay attention to the things you don’t have…a sore throat that goes away, a noisy and nosey neighbor that moves away, a core scene of annoyance with a loved one that doesn’t happen as often, with the same intensity, or for the same duration.

2. Pay attention to the neutral moments and watch them transform into positive moments. At the holiday dinner table this year, there was no drama, no anxiety, no drunkenness. As we reflected on this at day’s end, we smiled and gave thanks.

3. Pay attention to what support looks like for the people in front of you and the opportunities to be of service. In the past I swung between “it’s all up to me” and “there’s nothing I can do” (neither of which is true) and now I simply ask, “how can I help?” From this place of genuine concern, I truly tune into my willingness in this moment to love even more, and do what I can to make the world a better place.

Nature, Body, Reality

4. Pay attention to the sky. The quality of the sunlight, the dancing display of clouds, the stars and moon imperceptible in their movement, the trees losing leaves.

5. Pay attention to your feet: Rub and massage them for all they have accomplished, for the miles they have carried you, for the uplifted nature they allow. How can we not have gratitude for our feet?

6. Pay attention to water: The faucet that turns on and produces, the rain that fills the lake, the one ocean that connects us all in the bigger perspective of life.

7. Pay attention to the energetic exchange with animals, vegetables and minerals: the purr of the cat, the bark of the dog, the wag of the tail, the buzz of the bee, the strength of garlic and red onion, the grounding quality of sea salt on your tongue.

8. Pay attention to gravity, a power greater than yourself that is always present.

Breath, Enough, Money, Life

9. Pay attention to your breath, effortlessly, endlessly, easily keeping you alive. Instant gratitude.

10. Pay attention to those moments of feeling well rested, loved, loving and enough. They exist and they nourish the soul. The act of noticing them increases their positive influence on our overall wellbeing.

11. Pay attention to money, sharing appreciation for all the freedom is affords you. Borrow what Marie Forleo says when she spends it, “there is more where that came from.”

12. Pay attention to the great good fortune of being alive. If you struggle with remembering this, go on a media fast and don’t let in the negative for at least 30 days. Be willing to experiment with your life. Be a force for good by cultivating a grateful heart and living in gratitude year round.