Trust yourself to no longer abandon yourself. This is foundational. This really is an invitation to an extraordinary life.
So what exactly gets in the way of this extraordinary life? Pests. Erosion. Termites erode the foundation. Termites like mistrust, fear, and reactivity eat away at trust and erode the integrity of the foundation of our relationships.
For example, mistrust happens when social contracts are broken and neglected. You must heal your agreements with others, and start by trusting yourself first.
Lack of safety habitually haunts those of us familiar with traumatic events, thereby leading to exaggerated startle responses and over-reactive nervous systems create an uptight experience of the chapters of life.
3 things we can do
- We can learn to calm ourselves down in stressful situations.
2. We can, indeed, break the spells that bind us.
3. And we can rewrite the ending to this chapter of our lives.
pause. breathe. reset.
As I’m sitting here, I’m experiencing gratitude for my practice of Pause. Breathe. Reset. I’m so relieved to relax more fully into my tender heart. Even though it can seem scary as hell to not defend against the pain and suffering of the world.
And I’m so excited to share with you what I’ve learned on this extraordinary journey of resilience, compassion and service. I’m poised to share insights from my own addiction recovery, relational healing and contemplative practice.
Here are some touchstones of what we can do to trust more fully:
touchstones to trust
Be the prayer
Allow and commit to deep listening
Find your identity inside yourself
Be very honest, open, and straight with yourself
Learn compassionate self-control
Learn to contain your own energy
Cultivate inner contentment
If there is a choice, choose the positive
Identify your destiny and serve
Cultivate character, commitment, and grace
Balance yourself, so you don’t need to be compensated from the outside
Give up manipulation and control
When you want something , get clear, ask, be calm, and let it come
Develop a meditative mind to wait and see what comes to you
Receive what comes
Let go of what goes
Don’t chase after anything
Cultivate a tender heart of forgiveness
Develop a relationship with a working God that dwells and breathes within you
(thanks to Yogi Bhajan for inspiring these ideas)
here’s what’s next
Tune in to the monthly variety show: what matters most in relational health on the 2nd Saturday of the month at noon Pacific Time. Check out the emails for the most current Zoom link.
Join me in my Relational Health Masterclass Series starting next week. watch email for details and further inspiration.
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